Birth Parents Blog

Can a Birth Father Get Open Adoption Updates?

Posted by Lifetime Adoption on September 20, 2018

"My ex-girlfriend is giving our baby up for adoption. We've been struggling to make ends meet for months now, and we're in a crazy off-and-on relationship. She hangs out with the wrong people, and I want better for my son.

I'm down with adoption, but can I get updates on our baby too as he grows up?"

Yes, definitely! You can have contact with the adoptive family and your child, separately from his mother. Even though you're no longer together, an open adoption relationship is possible. The contact you have with the adoptive couple could be emails, letters, photos, texts, social media posts, and even in-person visits. A birth father can have his own open adoption contact, even if the birth mother doesn’t want or need to stay in touch with the adoptive family.

Just look at this example of contact between a birth father and an adoptive couple in an open adoption:

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Topics: Baby's father, birth father, what is open adoption like?, birth father rights

What If He Says NO to the Adoption?

Posted by Lifetime Adoption on February 20, 2018

"I'm 17 and I just found out I'm pregnant! Since my boyfriend and I are still in high school, I think adoption is going to be the best choice. But he gets mad at me if I bring it up, so I don't think he'll agree to doing adoption. What can I do if he says no to the adoption?"

We get asked this type of question a lot, and this is a very common situation. So, know that you're not alone, because many women have been where you are right now. Read on to get some tips on what to do if he's totally against adoption.

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Topics: Baby's father, Give up my baby, adopt my baby, adopt out my baby, adoption for my baby, baby's dad, father of my baby

As a Birth Father, Do I Have a Say in the Adoption?

Posted by Lifetime Adoption on February 13, 2018

Is your girlfriend pregnant, and just told you she's going to place your baby for adoption? Or maybe you're married, struggling to make ends meet, and your wife has announced she's making an adoption plan. No matter your situation, you're probably wondering, "does the father have a say in adoption?"

The answer is a definite "yes"! Lifetime encourages birth fathers to get involved in the adoption planning process. Keep reading to learn the choices and rights you have as a birth father with modern adoption!

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Topics: Baby's father, baby's dad, birth father, birth father rights

How to Be Honest With Your Baby's Father

Posted by Lifetime Adoption on January 9, 2018

Discovering that you’re pregnant when you're not ready to parent undoubtedly brings up lots of emotions. When it comes to your baby's father, you might be worried about how to tell him you're pregnant. If you're thinking about hiding the pregnancy from him and then hiding his identity during the adoption process, don't. Today, we're going to tell you why telling him you're pregnant is important.

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Topics: Baby's father, Adoption process, baby's dad, hiding my pregnancy

How To Tell If Your Baby's Father is "The One"

Posted by Lifetime Adoption on December 19, 2017

If you're thinking about adoption, you've probably also thought about the father of your baby. Is he "dad material"? Has the thought "maybe we should just get married and try to make this work" crossed your mind? 

Start by being honest with yourself about your relationship. Marriage should come from being committed to each other, not just because you're having a baby together. Think about what kind of home life you want for your child. 

Keep reading for 12 important questions to ask yourself when you're wondering if he's "the one"!

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Topics: Relationships, Parenting, Baby's father, relationship questions, baby's dad

Adoption Truth: Birth Fathers Can Have Part in Open Adoption Too

Posted by Lifetime Adoption on November 7, 2017

Does your baby's father want to stay in his child's life after the adoption happens? As one guy puts it, "My girlfriend thinks adoption is best for our baby, and she's probably right, but I still want to be a part of my child's life. I don't want to act like he never happened."

Today, we're talking about how your baby's father can be a part of making an adoption plan, and why it's beneficial to get him involved.

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Topics: Adoption, Open Adoption, Baby's father, birth father, birth father rights

Can My Baby's Father Be Involved in the Adoption?

Posted by Lifetime Adoption on September 15, 2017

Question: "I'm 19 years old, and 15 weeks pregnant. My boyfriend and I have a great relationship, but just aren't ready to get married and have a family now, so we decided on adoption. He'd like to help me pick the couple who adopts our baby. Is that OK?"

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Topics: Baby's father, father of my baby, birth father, birth father rights

I'm Pregnant! Should We Get Married?

Posted by Lifetime Adoption on August 8, 2017

Question: I just got a positive pregnancy test...help! Being a mom wasn't something I planned on at 19! My baby's dad and I have been dating for two years now. Would it be best if we just settled down now and got married? Then, we can try and raise this kid together...

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Topics: Relationships, unplanned pregnancy, Baby's father, Marriage, relationship questions, baby's dad, missed period, positive pregnancy test

"Can I Stop My Girlfriend From Putting Our Baby Up for Adoption?"

Posted by Lifetime Adoption on June 16, 2017

A guy asked us just last week: "My girlfriend is pregnant and wants to give our baby away for adoption. I’m against it. Can I fight against it or is it out of my control?"

Keep reading to find out the answer!      

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Topics: Baby's father, adopt out my baby, adoption for my baby, father of my baby, birth father, birth father rights

What to Do When He Wants You to Get an Abortion

Posted by Lifetime Adoption on March 14, 2017

Question: "My boyfriend and I have been dating for three years, and we live together. We just found out that I’m pregnant, and we’re definitely not ready to be parents! Neither of us can hold down a job and we've been evicted from apartments lots of times over the past year. 

He’s trying to persuade me to get an abortion, but I don’t think it’s the right thing to do. I’m thinking of adopting out my baby. How can I convince him that adoption is the best choice in our situation?"

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Topics: Baby's father, I could never give my baby away for adoption!, adopting out my baby, abortion or adoption