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Adoption Myth #4: My child will hate me

Posted by Lifetime Adoption on Jan 24, 2014 3:32:18 PM

Children adopted today have a very different experience than those adopted in the 1950’s and 1960’s when closed adoption was the only option. Back then, parents sat down with the child, often at age 12 or 13, and explained that they were adopted.

Nowadays, a child is told from the beginning that they were adopted and chosen. They explain the love that led their parents to adoption and the trust that the birth parents had in selecting them. They tell the child their own unique story in an age-appropriate way that honors the adoption decision.

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Adoption Myth #3: Abortion is easier than adoption

Posted by Lifetime Adoption on Jan 17, 2014 2:52:39 PM

Many women today believe that abortion is a quick fix for an unplanned pregnancy. Unfortunately what they aren’t warned about is that this quick fix is sometimes followed by lifelong regret and depression. We have worked with many women who have expressed this to us by simply saying “I can’t have another abortion,” or “I will never do that again.”

Many of the benefits of abortion and adoption are the same, including:

  • You can “go on” with your life
  • You can further your education
  • No one has to know
  • You don’t have to parent
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Adoption Myth #2: Adoption is an “unbearable sacrifice”

Posted by Lifetime Adoption on Jan 14, 2014 12:23:46 PM

Adoption is an unselfish choice of putting your child’s needs above your own. It can be difficult and is a loss, but the choices you make as create your customized adoption plan will help you now and in the future.

Curt Young says in his book, The Missing Piece, that “Adoption is a sacrifice but not an unbearable one, if the birth mother has good support during her pregnancy and chooses adoption for the right reasons.” He goes into a discussion of “right reasons”, defining them as the free choice of the birth mother rather than being pressured into it by family or friends.

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Adoption Myth #1: Adoption means I will never see my child again

Posted by Lifetime Adoption on Jan 9, 2014 3:05:54 AM

In the 1950’s and 1960’s, adoptions were commonly closed and private; no one ever had to know. Birth mothers did not ever see their child, unless decades later they both pursued a reunion. The good news is that closed adoption is now very rare.

Adoption today here at Lifetime means that the birth mother makes the choices, including choosing the family and choosing what type of ongoing contact she desires. And Lifetime Adoption will help her find a family that is open to exactly what she is seeking.

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