Birth Parents Blog

How to Face Thanksgiving if You Have an Unplanned Pregnancy

Posted by Lifetime Adoption on November 21, 2018

If you’re dealing with an unplanned pregnancy, you might be wondering how you'll handle your family member’s reactions at Thanksgiving. When you arrive at Thanksgiving dinner with a baby bump, how will you answer their questions?

Being with family during the holidays can be intense, and might bring up issues. Since you're facing a crisis, you might have a difficult time getting "into" all the holiday cheer around you.

Know that you're not alone. Many women have been where you're at, and have felt like you're feeling right now. So today, we're giving you some ideas and tips for you on how you might handle Thanksgiving with an unplanned pregnancy!

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Topics: Holidays, unplanned pregnancy, adoption for my baby, Adoption for my child, hiding my pregnancy

Is Adoption the Right Choice for Me?

Posted by Lifetime Adoption on November 16, 2018

Are you wondering whether adoption is the right choice for you and your baby? You might be feeling overwhelmed, scared, alone, and unsure. Let us assure you that you're not alone. While you may feel like you're the only one in the world facing an unplanned pregnancy, you're not. It's normal to feel that way.

But you're not the first or the last to walk this path. That can be comforting to hear because it means that there are resources, support, and information available to help you right now. Knowing your options and becoming well-informed can help you to feel more confident about whichever decision you make.

Today, we're giving you questions you can ask yourself to help decide if parenting or adoption is going to be the right choice for you!

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Topics: unplanned pregnancy choices, Pregnancy choices, adopt out my baby, choosing adoption for my baby, adoption for my baby

"With open adoption, I can see my daughter grow up!"

Posted by Lifetime Adoption on November 9, 2018

This guest post was written by Hailey, a birth mother who chose adoption for her daughter six years ago.

"After three weeks of being pregnant with a baby I knew I couldn't parent, I sat down and devoted my time to looking at adoptive family websites. I was curious about adopting my baby out. I looked at SO many adoptive parent profiles. Never knew there were so many couples wanting to give their love!

I wanted to feel a connection to the couple I chose. Since I grew up with an older brother and sister, I wanted my baby to have the same. And after I found out that my baby would be a girl, I kept seeing her as someone’s little sister.

As they say, when you know, you know. When I picked Jason and Jenni, I knew they'd be perfect parents for my daughter. They already had a three-year-old son, and Jenni is a stay-at-home mom. I felt like she belonged in their family! Honestly, for us, it was 'meant to be.'

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Topics: adoption for my baby, how to choose an adoptive family, what is open adoption like?, Open Adoption, National Adoption Awareness Month, Adoption story, birth mother stories

The Top 5 Reasons Why Women Choose Adoption

Posted by Lifetime Adoption on October 12, 2018

If you’re dealing with an unplanned pregnancy and thinking about open adoption for your baby, you’re probably wrestling with a lot of questions. One that might come up, again and again, is simply, "why?" Why choose open adoption? What are the reasons why women choose adoption for their child?

The truth is, there aren’t any simple answers. At the end of the day, making an adoption plan is a personal choice that every woman needs to make on her own.

Birth mothers today decide on adoption out of love. They choose open adoption because they’re putting their child’s interests before their own. Today, we're exploring 5 common reasons why pregnant women turn to adoption:

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Topics: why do women choose adoption?, adoption for my baby, choosing adoption for my baby, open adoption questions, Open Adoption

The Moment I Knew I Should Adopt Out My Baby

Posted by Lifetime Adoption on October 5, 2018

This guest post is by Kristina, a birth mother.

"I was 19 when I found out I was pregnant. When my gyno confirmed my pregnancy, I was in shock. That day changed my life forever. I remember thinking, am I ready to be a mom? Am I ready to raise this sweet little being? As I asked myself those two questions and took a hard look at my situation, my gut instinct was that I wasn’t ready.

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Topics: adopt out my baby, birth mother stories, Adoption story, adoption for my baby

"What if People Ask Me If I Have Kids?"

Posted by Lifetime Adoption on July 6, 2018

Many birth mothers have found it difficult to talk about their birth child with people they don’t know. Do you feel that the person asking if you have kids is someone you’d like to share your personal feelings with?

If you are OK with going into detail about your adoption plan, that's great. If not and you find it easier just to say “No,” it doesn't mean you’re denying you have a child. Don't feel guilty about answering "no."

If you haven't found a response you’re comfortable with, here are a few suggestions. One of these might work for you when you're asked: "Do you have any children?”

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Topics: Adoption story, adoption for my baby, contact with my baby, what is open adoption like?, post-adoption

Adoption Doesn’t Mean That You’re “Giving Up”

Posted by Lifetime Adoption on June 22, 2018

In the media, birth mothers are often portrayed as women who decide to "give up" their babies for adoption. From talk shows, to movies, and even to casual chats with friends, the term "give up" is often mentioned in connection with adoption. Today, we're going to explain why adoption doesn't mean that you're giving up.

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Topics: adopt out my baby, I could never give my baby away for adoption!, giving my baby up for adoption, Giving Baby up for Adoption, giving a baby up for adoption, adopting out my baby, adoption for my baby, is adoption right for me

How Do I Explain My Baby's Adoption To My Other Children?

Posted by Lifetime Adoption on May 22, 2018

"I'm 23 and seven months pregnant with my third child. Making ends meet is so hard with two kids, and I feel like it will be next to impossible with three! So I'm probably going to do adoption...

I'm worried about how I will tell my other children that I'm adopting out this baby. How can I tell my kids about my decision?"

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Topics: adoption for my baby, explaining adoption to children, adoption plan

See How Open Adoption Works in Real Life

Posted by Lifetime Adoption on May 11, 2018

Sometimes when you're right in the middle of your adoption planning process, it's hard to see what the future might look like.

Right now, you might be trying to decide what kind of contact you want to have later on with the adoptive family and your child. Or, you might be trying to picture what life would be like for your child with the adoptive couples you've picked.

So today, Lifetime is sharing a glimpse into how modern, open adoption can look in the real world. 

Watch this video of a heartfelt note that a birth mother wrote to her daughter, and the adoptive parents she chose through Lifetime! 

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Topics: what is open adoption like?, adoption for my baby

How Do I Know My Baby Will Be Safe?

Posted by Lifetime Adoption on April 10, 2018

The process of choosing just the right adoptive family for your baby can seem complicated. As you look at adoptive parent profiles, they'll probably all look nice and friendly, and say things that you like. But, as one woman puts it, "how do I know the adoptive families I see on your website are fit to be parents? How do I know that my baby will be safe?"

Today, Lifetime is giving you insider info about the in-depth screening and background checks every hopeful adoptive parent must go through in order to adopt so you can gain confidence that your baby will be safe!

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Topics: how to choose a family for my baby, how to choose an adoptive family, adoptive family for my baby, adoption for my baby