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I'm Pregnant! Should We Get Married?

Posted by Lifetime Adoption on August 8, 2017

should we get married.jpgQuestion: I just got a positive pregnancy test...help! Being a mom wasn't something I planned on at 19! My baby's dad and I have been dating for two years now. Would it be best if we just settled down now and got married? Then, we can try and raise this kid together...

Answer: Yes, maybe, just so you're not marrying only because you're pregnant. Getting married for the wrong reason sets you up for a higher risk of divorce, as opposed to a relationship that has had time to grow without the stress of an unplanned pregnancy.

It's time to be real with yourself about your relationship with him. The decision to marry should be because you are both committed to each other and want be together. It shouldn't be just because you're freaking out about having a baby together.

Think about what you hope for your life before adding marriage and parenting into the mix. If you and your baby's father aren't ready to devote your lives to being parents, don’t put your child’s future at risk. It’s OK if you're not ready or to decide you want more out of life before “settling down.”

What kind of home life do you want for your child? Do you feel ready and able to give him or her a stable and safe home? Is your boyfriend? If you're not, adoption can give your child the kind of home life you desire for them.

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Topics: Relationships, unplanned pregnancy, Baby's father, Marriage, relationship questions, baby's dad, missed period, positive pregnancy test