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"I'm an addict...adoption was the best choice I ever made!"

Posted by Lifetime Adoption on September 7, 2018

opioids and adoptionAs opioid abuse has risen in recent years, conversations about addiction have moved out of the shadows. Today, we hear from one woman, who wishes to remain anonymous, about her experience with addiction. 

"It's not like I just woke up one day and decided that I wanted to become a drug addict. I was a sophomore in college and I stepped on a thumbtack in my dorm room. It pierced my right foot, which got infected. I had fevers above 102 for days, so I decided to go to the ER.

There, I got antibiotics and hydrocodone. My infection cleared up, and the pain went away. But I took the extra hydrocodone anyway. It made my stress about school and paying bills go away, and it made me feel happy. So, I started buying OxyContin from someone who had a prescription.

I grew addicted to using all day, every day. I just couldn’t stop. It got to the point where I couldn't afford my habit anymore and constantly struggled to find more. Then, I found out I was pregnant.

I needed to get help. I tried to think about what I would do with a baby. Since abortion isn't something I believe in, and there was no way I could be a mom right then, I started to look into adoption. I found Lifetime's website and began to look at adoptive families.

When I called Lifetime, I was really up front with the lady. I just said, ‘Look, I know I can’t parent my baby, can I still choose adoption?’

My addiction started with a snap decision to take a pill just for fun. That choice has nearly destroyed me. So even though I can honestly say that while I'm an addict, adoption was the best choice I ever made! I get updates on my son, and can see how well he's doing with his adoptive parents. I can't imagine how he'd be doing if I'd decided to parent!"

The Benefits of Adoption 

If you're pregnant and addicted, know that you still have a choice. There is a better way. You have a say in your baby's future! With open adoption, you can choose the adoptive family for your baby. You have all of the same choices as any woman choosing adoption, including the option of ongoing contact with your child.  

Creating an adoption plan will allow you to provide your baby what you’re not able to. Some people might say,"How could you give up your baby for adoption?!”  But the truth is, adoption isn’t giving your baby away. It’s giving him or her the very best life that you possible can.

Lifetime Adoption has adoptive families open to adopting a baby who was exposed to opioid use prenatally. Adoption gives your baby the opportunity to be loved and cherished by an adoptive couple who have the resources to handle his or her needs.

If you need our help quickly, Lifetime is available 24 hours a day, 7 days a week,

You can even call from the hospital to get adoption help.
Just call Lifetime at 1-800-923-6784.

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Topics: Give up my baby, opioid crisis and adoption, prenatal drug exposure, addiction and adoption, substance use during pregnancy