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How to Face Thanksgiving if You Have an Unplanned Pregnancy

Posted by Lifetime Adoption on November 21, 2018

thanksgiving-bmomIf you’re dealing with an unplanned pregnancy, you might be wondering how you'll handle your family member’s reactions at Thanksgiving. When you arrive at Thanksgiving dinner with a baby bump, how will you answer their questions?

Being with family during the holidays can be intense, and might bring up issues. Since you're facing a crisis, you might have a difficult time getting "into" all the holiday cheer around you.

Know that you're not alone. Many women have been where you're at, and have felt like you're feeling right now. So today, we're giving you some ideas and tips for you on how you might handle Thanksgiving!

Once you arrive at Thanksgiving festivities pregnant, some family members may ask you snoopy, nosy questions like "are you sure you’re ready to be a mom right now?!”  Think about it this way: is anyone really ever *really* ready? There are a lot of aspects to adoption and motherhood to think about. Making an adoption plan and becoming a mom are both major life events, ones that take lots of time and thought before starting.

The truth is, no one can tell you what you should do next. People will tell you what they think you should do, of course, but they can't tell you how having or not having this baby will affect your life.

So if people ask you awkward (or downright rude) questions, you could respond with something like, “I am going to take some time to think about it, so I can make the best decision for my baby's future. Right now, I’m just taking things day by day.”

If you feel like you just can’t go to Thanksgiving dinner because of your situation, that’s OK. It's OK to put this tradition aside to care for your needs right now. Sometimes we feel like we have to carry on with life as usual. But the reality is that things aren't as usual. Even if you're making an adoption plan and your family supports it, you might still have a hard time acting like nothing’s changed, or nothing’s happening.

Lifetime Adoption's hotline is available on Thanksgiving Day and during the weekend, too. We're always here to answer your questions about adoption.

Just call or text us at 1-800-923-6784.

Topics: Holidays, unplanned pregnancy, adoption for my baby, Adoption for my child, hiding my pregnancy