"My Mom says that since I made the choice to have sex, I have to be a mom. She is dead-set against the idea that I'd adopt out my baby.
How can I get my Mom's support? I have no idea how I'd be able to parent right now, so adoption is really the best decision I could make..."
Many families, especially those with strong Christian values, may struggle to accept that their daughter is pregnant (or when their son announces he’s going to be a dad). This is normal, and your mother may be having a hard time accepting that your life has changed forever.
Adoption may feel strange to her, especially if it means saying goodbye to her first grandchild, no matter how unexpected it may be.
We recommend that you keep the conversation going. Motherhood is not meant to be a punishment for pregnancy. Adoption can be a wonderful blessing for you and your child. You get to continue to pursue your goals and your child gets the life you want for him or her, including the choice of adoptive parents! You may want to include your mom in choosing a family, especially if it is important to her to choose a Christian adoption. And, it might help to share with her the benefits of choosing adoption.
Remember, she can’t force you to parent. The reality is, you have the final say over what happens to your baby. We encourage women to make informed decisions. If you'd like to talk or set up counseling, call us anytime at the number below.