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Can a Birth Father Get Open Adoption Updates?

Posted by Lifetime Adoption on September 20, 2018

"My ex-girlfriend is giving our baby up for adoption. We've been struggling to make ends meet for months now, and we're in a crazy off-and-on relationship. She hangs out with the wrong people, and I want better for my son.

I'm down with adoption, but can I get updates on our baby too as he grows up?"

Yes, definitely! You can have contact with the adoptive family and your child, separately from his mother. Even though you're no longer together, an open adoption relationship is possible. The contact you have with the adoptive couple could be emails, letters, photos, texts, social media posts, and even in-person visits. A birth father can have his own open adoption contact, even if the birth mother doesn’t want or need to stay in touch with the adoptive family.

Just look at this example of contact between a birth father and an adoptive couple in an open adoption:

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Topics: Baby's father, birth father, what is open adoption like?, birth father rights

How to Find a Family Who Will Honor Open Adoption

Posted by Lifetime Adoption on September 14, 2018

"I'm 30 weeks along, and I'm pretty sure that I'm going to adopt out my baby.  I know I want an open adoption, because I would like to get updates on my daughter as she grows up. But, how can I be sure the adoptive family will keep their promise to stay in contact?” 

Most women choosing adoption today want to stay in contact with their child, through emails, photos, social media posts, or visits. One of the ways to make sure that your baby's adoptive couple will keep their promise to stay in contact is to choose a couple who have adopted already. When the adoptive couple has an open adoption relationship with their child's birth mother, it's a good sign that they'd be open to future contact with you as well.

These adoptive couples keep an open adoption relationship with their child's birth family:

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Topics: Open Adoption, modern adoption, how to choose an adoptive family, contact with my baby, future contact, find a family

"I'm an addict...adoption was the best choice I ever made!"

Posted by Lifetime Adoption on September 7, 2018

As opioid abuse has risen in recent years, conversations about addiction have moved out of the shadows. Today, we hear from one woman, who wishes to remain anonymous, about her experience with addiction. 

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Topics: Give up my baby, prenatal drug exposure, substance use during pregnancy, addiction and adoption, opioid crisis and adoption

Experienced Adoptive Couple in the Portland Area Hope to Adopt Again!

Posted by Lifetime Adoption on August 31, 2018

Meet Jeremy and Adela, an active, loving, and faithful family excited to adopt again! They'd love to have an open adoption with you including letters, photos, and visits, if you're comfortable. They live in the greater Portland area, where Jeremy's a physician assistant and Adela works part-time as a pharmacist.

Jeremy and Adela's younger son was adopted as a newborn and their oldest is biological. "We’ve always longed for adding a little girl into our family, and we feel the Lord stirring in our hearts to adopt!" say Jeremy and Adela. As a family, they enjoy traveling the world, camping, playing board games, and going on mission trips with their church.

Every night, Jeremy and Adela cook together, and then pray together as a family at the dinner table. Jeremy and Adela promise to love and support your child and to teach her about the Lord, how to be kind, and to accept everyone as they are. They promise that your daughter will always know her adoption story and how much she is loved by you. 

Keep reading to learn more about this experienced adoptive couple in the Portland area!

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Topics: Open Adoption, open adoption visits, adoptive family from the West coast, adoptive family in the Pacific Northwest, Oregon adoptive couple, Oregon adoptive family

"I'm being pressured to do adoption...what should I do?"

Posted by Lifetime Adoption on August 24, 2018

"Everyone in my life is telling me I should put my baby up for adoption...my friends, my parents, and my boyfriend. I'm getting really sick of all the pressure. What should I do to handle this situation?"

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Topics: adopt out my baby, father of my baby, abortion or adoption, pressure to choose adoption

Can I Adopt Out My Baby If I'm In Jail?

Posted by Lifetime Adoption on August 17, 2018

Being pregnant in jail or prison isn't that uncommon. However, if you’re pregnant and in jail, you might not know what your options are. What happens when you have your baby while in jail? Is prison adoption possible?

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Topics: adopt out my baby, prison adoption, pregnant in jail, pregnant in prison

"Why do I have to answer so many questions to give up my baby?"

Posted by Lifetime Adoption on August 10, 2018

"I'm 25 weeks along, and my gut instinct has been telling me that placing this baby up for adoption is going to be best. Since I'm already raising two kids with no support from their dads, I have no idea how I'd afford to feed another mouth.  :(

Yesterday, I went on your site to get started with my baby's adoption and fill out the paperwork. Why do I have to answer so many questions to give up my baby for adoption?"

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Topics: Give up my baby, place my baby up for adoption, adoption paperwork, adoption plan for my baby

Couple in The Garden State Eager to Adopt Their First Child!

Posted by Lifetime Adoption on August 3, 2018

Meet Justino and Gina, an active couple who live in The Garden State! This New Jersey couple have made this cute adoption video to introduce themselves to you and share about their hopes of becoming parents!

They're hoping to adopt a baby of either gender. Justino and Gina are open to adopting a Caucasian, Hispanic, Native American, or Asian baby. Gina will be a stay-at-home mommy and can’t wait to nurture and love your child! 

Here's more about Justino and Gina, a hopeful adoptive couple living in New Jersey:

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Topics: Adoptive couple video, Adoptive couple's video, adoption video,, adoptive family video, East Coast adoptive family, New Jersey adoptive couple, adoptive family in New Jersey

How Do I Know if Open Adoption is Best for Me?

Posted by Lifetime Adoption on July 27, 2018

Open adoption today gives you lots of choices, including the ability to hand-pick the adoptive parents for your baby. It also lets you choose how much you'd like to stay in touch with them after the adoption placement, and how many updates you'd like on your child.

If you're thinking about making an adoption plan, you might be wondering things about open adoption like:

"How do I decide how much future contact is best?" 
or
"What happens if I say I want contact, but then after the adoption happens I decide I don't?"
 

Keep reading to learn more about your choices of future contact in open adoption!

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Topics: Open Adoption, what is open adoption like?, contact with my baby, future contact

My Daughter is One...Is It Too Late to Choose Adoption?

Posted by Lifetime Adoption on July 20, 2018

Question: "My baby just turned 1, and while it’s hard to imagine adopting her out after a year of loving and caring for her, it’s also hard to think of what could happen if I don’t do an adoption now. I can’t hold a job because the best jobs require hours beyond usual daycare hours. If I can’t pay my bills, I can’t take care of her. Is it too late to do adoption?"

Answer: It’s never too late to make an adoption plan for your child. Lifetime has helped many women who tried parenting before turning to adoption. You can oversee the entire adoption planning process, and that includes deciding when you're ready to begin. No matter if your child is weeks, months or years old, adoption is always a decision that you can make. If you choose adoption later on for your child, you have the same choices and rights as a pregnant woman making an adoption plan. This includes:

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Topics: Adoption for my child, older child adoption, adopt out my child, is it too late to choose adoption?, is it too late to do adoption?