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20 Questions You Should Ask At Your Hospital Tour

Posted by Lifetime Adoption on February 2, 2018

Getting a hospital tour before birthGetting ready for your baby's delivery is emotionally and physically challenging. And when you've made an adoption plan, things can get really overwhelming. The good news is that you can calm some of your jitters by taking a hospital tour for pregnancy where you plan to deliver at.

A hospital tour for pregnancy pays off in many ways. You’ll be able to meet some of the staff who will be helping you during your hospital stay. Many women find it reassuring to see a familiar face when their contractions are getting intense!

Plus, it's nice to be able to talk to the hospital's social worker about your adoption plan ahead of time, and share how'd like your birth plan to go. Your Adoption Coordinator at Lifetime will be supporting you, too: she'll get in touch with the hospital around six weeks before your due date, to find out how their process works and provide the necessary paperwork.

Today, Lifetime is sharing 20 hospital tour questions you might ask. Whether or not you ask all of these questions depends on your adoption hospital plan and your level of openness, but they'll definitely give you an idea of how you want things to go. 

1. Can I have a private room?

2. Are there separate areas for labor and for the actual delivery?

3. While I'm in labor, can the adoptive couple be in the room? How about during delivery?

4. Do you have a waiting area for the adoptive couple?

5. Do you have a birthing tub or shower that I can use?

6. Can I walk in the hallway during labor, or is there another area for that?

7. Does your hospital allow women to give birth in any position?

8. Do you have a birthing ball?

9. Is there a TV in the room? Can I bring music?

10. How long does the average labor last at your hospital?

11. What's your C-section rate?

12. Have you ever had a patient who'd made an adoption plan for her baby?

13. If I decide to get an epidural, how long will I have to wait for one?

14. Is the adoptive couple allowed to tape video or take photos during labor and delivery?

15. Am I allowed to eat and drink while in labor?

16. Can the adoptive mother be present?

17. Can I wear my own pajamas or gown during labor?

18. When is the cord cut? Is there the option for the adoptive mother or father to do the cord cutting?

19. Does your hospital have a nursery, or offer in-rooming where the baby stays with me? Is there the option for the baby to stay with the adoptive couple?

20. After my baby is born, can I leave first? Or can the adoptive couple and baby leave first? 

Think about you how want your delivery to take place, and what role you'd like the adoptive couple to have (if any). Some women choose to bring the adoptive couple into the process as much as possible: cutting the umbilical cord, and being the first to hold the baby

The choices are up to you and what you feel comfortable with. We encourage you to talk with your Adoption Coordinator at Lifetime to create an adoption hospital plan that works for you. She will help you work out the details beforehand so that the process goes as smoothly as possible!

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Topics: adoption experience in the hospital, hospital preferences, preparing for labor