Birth Parents Blog

5 Ways to Get Through Your First Year After Placing

Posted by Lifetime Adoption on January 11, 2019

It’s one thing to make an adoption plan for your baby, but a completely different thing to deal with your feelings after the adoption is done.

The range of emotions you might feel after placement is normal. You’ll probably face a roller coaster of emotions, ranging from guilt to relief during and after the adoption process.

One minute you might feel like you did the best thing for your baby and the next you feel lonely and lost.

These five tips can help you cope after placement, no matter how you may be feeling:

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Topics: peer counseling, adoption counseling, post-placement

Financially Stable Californians Excited to Be First-Time Parents Through Adoption!

Posted by Lifetime Adoption on January 4, 2019

Meet Brian and Jennifer, a fun-loving California couple who are excited to become first-time parents through adopting! They've taped this cute adoption video to share about their hope of starting their family by adopting! Brian and Jennifer enjoy hosting family BBQs, taking trips, going on walks in the evenings, swimming in their pool, and attending church Saturday nights with friends.

Brian works as an electrical engineer, and Jennifer is a substitute teacher with plans to become a stay-at-home mom when they adopt! Their California home is located near parks, wonderful schools, and friendly families with young children. Brian and Jennifer’s house has a fenced-in pool, and they plan to decorate their spare bedroom as the nursery.

Here's more about Brian and Jennifer, a hopeful adoptive couple living in California:

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Topics: adoption video,, Adoptive couple video, Adoptive couple's video, adoptive family video, adoptive family from the West coast, adoptive family from California, california adoptive couple for my baby, California adoptive couple

The Best of This Blog: Top 10 Posts from 2018

Posted by Lifetime Adoption on December 28, 2018

The time has come: 2018 is drawing to a close. Maybe you feel like it flew by. Today, we’re taking a step back to look at Lifetime's most popular blogs of 2018.

This year, we shared some common reasons why women choose adoption, information about how open adoption works, wrote about an interview with a birth mom, and much more!

So let’s get started with this quick recap of the 10 most popular posts on our blog in 2018:

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Topics: unplanned pregnancy, unplanned pregnancy choices, adoption for my baby, Adoption for my child, is it too late to choose adoption?, birth mother videos, what is open adoption like?, Open Adoption, prenatal drug exposure, pregnant in jail, why do women choose adoption?

Tackling the Holidays as a Birth Mom: Grappling Through Grief and Loss

Posted by Guest Contributor on December 18, 2018

Adrian C. Collins is both a birth mom and an adoptive mom, and she writes and speaks about the complexities of adoption. In today's guest post, Adrian shares real-life tips on getting through grief during the holidays, as a birth mom.

Our family is a huge fan of the CBS television show, The Amazing Race, where teams embark on a trek around the world to compete for a one million dollar prize. At every destination, each team must compete in a series of challenges, and only when the tasks are completed will they learn of their next destination.

In one challenge, partners were asked to play a round of volleyball against professional players in Estonia and only had to score five points to complete the challenge before finishing that leg of the race. Some assumed the challenge to be a breeze. What teams didn’t realize, was that they were playing volleyball in mud. The mud was so deep it rose to players’ waistline and so thick it caused participants to become stuck. As the opponents balls whizzed past, contestants could only stand in one place. They became entrenched by circumstances. 

As a birth mom, I’ve often felt wedged by grief during the holiday season. A million little things are whizzing by—and I’m grasping for joy, peace and love—but instead I feel anchored by loss. Unable to move. Unable to catch my breath. Unable to celebrate.

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Topics: Holidays, adoption and loss, adoption grief, contact with my baby, why do women choose adoption?, postadoption depression, post-adoption, life after adoption

How to Choose the Perfect Adoptive Parents for Your Baby

Posted by Lifetime Adoption on December 14, 2018

Choosing an adoptive family for your baby can feel overwhelming. As you look at our website, you'll see lots of wonderful couples who are hoping to adopt. So how do you pick the perfect adoptive parents for your baby?

Here are 4 tips that will help you in your decision-making process:

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Why Did I Choose Adoption? Out of LOVE

Posted by Lifetime Adoption on December 7, 2018

“I fell in love with Matt my junior year of college and was very sure we’d be together for the rest of our lives. When I realized I was pregnant, I was soo happy at first. All of the love I felt for Matt went right to my baby.

But then, reality set in. How was I going to raise a baby, attend all my classes, write papers, study for finals, and keep a part-time job? How would I pay bills and pay for everything the baby needed on a part-time paycheck?

After meeting with a counselor at a pregnancy center in our town, I came to realize that adoption was probably going to be the answer. At first, Matt was totally against the idea, but later came to accept it when he realized we weren't ready to be parents.

Even though my relationship with Matt didn’t work out, I'll always have so much love for our daughter, Sophia. She was created in a beautiful light and I truly believe God was protecting her from the start. She was an absolute joy to carry, to give birth to, and to love. My connection and love for her will always exist. When people ask me why I chose adoption, the answer is simple. Out of LOVE!"

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Topics: adopt out my baby, why do women choose adoption?, modern adoption, Open Adoption

How to Make a Connection With the Family You Chose

Posted by Lifetime Adoption on November 30, 2018

So you've selected adoptive parents for your baby and decided to match with them. With modern adoption, you have choices on how you'd like to move forward with them during the rest of your pregnancy.

Since you'll be a part of each other’s lives for years to come, it's a good idea to get to know your child's adoptive parents throughout your pregnancy. This will allow you to feel positive in the decision you make.

Here are 4 ways you can connect with the adoptive couple:

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Topics: adoption match, Open Adoption, Communication, how to choose a family for my baby, how do I choose an adoptive family?, family for my baby, picking an adoptive family

How to Face Thanksgiving if You Have an Unplanned Pregnancy

Posted by Lifetime Adoption on November 21, 2018

If you’re dealing with an unplanned pregnancy, you might be wondering how you'll handle your family member’s reactions at Thanksgiving. When you arrive at Thanksgiving dinner with a baby bump, how will you answer their questions?

Being with family during the holidays can be intense, and might bring up issues. Since you're facing a crisis, you might have a difficult time getting "into" all the holiday cheer around you.

Know that you're not alone. Many women have been where you're at, and have felt like you're feeling right now. So today, we're giving you some ideas and tips for you on how you might handle Thanksgiving with an unplanned pregnancy!

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Topics: Holidays, unplanned pregnancy, adoption for my baby, Adoption for my child, hiding my pregnancy

Is Adoption the Right Choice for Me?

Posted by Lifetime Adoption on November 16, 2018

Are you wondering whether adoption is the right choice for you and your baby? You might be feeling overwhelmed, scared, alone, and unsure. Let us assure you that you're not alone. While you may feel like you're the only one in the world facing an unplanned pregnancy, you're not. It's normal to feel that way.

But you're not the first or the last to walk this path. That can be comforting to hear because it means that there are resources, support, and information available to help you right now. Knowing your options and becoming well-informed can help you to feel more confident about whichever decision you make.

Today, we're giving you questions you can ask yourself to help decide if parenting or adoption is going to be the right choice for you!

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Topics: unplanned pregnancy choices, Pregnancy choices, adopt out my baby, choosing adoption for my baby, adoption for my baby

"With open adoption, I can see my daughter grow up!"

Posted by Lifetime Adoption on November 9, 2018

This guest post was written by Hailey, a birth mother who chose adoption for her daughter six years ago.

"After three weeks of being pregnant with a baby I knew I couldn't parent, I sat down and devoted my time to looking at adoptive family websites. I was curious about adopting my baby out. I looked at SO many adoptive parent profiles. Never knew there were so many couples wanting to give their love!

I wanted to feel a connection to the couple I chose. Since I grew up with an older brother and sister, I wanted my baby to have the same. And after I found out that my baby would be a girl, I kept seeing her as someone’s little sister.

As they say, when you know, you know. When I picked Jason and Jenni, I knew they'd be perfect parents for my daughter. They already had a three-year-old son, and Jenni is a stay-at-home mom. I felt like she belonged in their family! Honestly, for us, it was 'meant to be.'

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Topics: adoption for my baby, how to choose an adoptive family, what is open adoption like?, Open Adoption, National Adoption Awareness Month, Adoption story, birth mother stories