Birth Parents Blog

"Why do I have to answer so many questions to give up my baby?"

Posted by Lifetime Adoption on August 10, 2018

"I'm 25 weeks along, and my gut instinct has been telling me that placing this baby up for adoption is going to be best. Since I'm already raising two kids with no support from their dads, I have no idea how I'd afford to feed another mouth.  :(

Yesterday, I went on your site to get started with my baby's adoption and fill out the paperwork. Why do I have to answer so many questions to give up my baby for adoption?"

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Topics: Give up my baby, place my baby up for adoption, adoption paperwork, adoption plan for my baby

Couple in The Garden State Eager to Adopt Their First Child!

Posted by Lifetime Adoption on August 3, 2018

Meet Justino and Gina, an active couple who live in The Garden State! This New Jersey couple have made this cute adoption video to introduce themselves to you and share about their hopes of becoming parents!

They're hoping to adopt a baby of either gender. Justino and Gina are open to adopting a Caucasian, Hispanic, Native American, or Asian baby. Gina will be a stay-at-home mommy and can’t wait to nurture and love your child! 

Here's more about Justino and Gina, a hopeful adoptive couple living in New Jersey:

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Topics: Adoptive couple video, Adoptive couple's video, adoption video,, adoptive family video, East Coast adoptive family, New Jersey adoptive couple, adoptive family in New Jersey

How Do I Know if Open Adoption is Best for Me?

Posted by Lifetime Adoption on July 27, 2018

Open adoption today gives you lots of choices, including the ability to hand-pick the adoptive parents for your baby. It also lets you choose how much you'd like to stay in touch with them after the adoption placement, and how many updates you'd like on your child.

If you're thinking about making an adoption plan, you might be wondering something like:

"How do I decide how much future contact is best?" 
or
"What happens if I say I want contact, but then after the adoption happens I decide I don't?"
 

Keep reading to learn more about your choices of future contact in open adoption!

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Topics: Open Adoption, what is open adoption like?, contact with my baby, future contact

My Daughter is One...Is It Too Late to Choose Adoption?

Posted by Lifetime Adoption on July 20, 2018

Question: "My baby just turned 1, and while it’s hard to imagine adopting her out after a year of loving and caring for her, it’s also hard to think of what could happen if I don’t do an adoption now. I can’t hold a job because the best jobs require hours beyond usual daycare hours. If I can’t pay my bills, I can’t take care of her. Is it too late to do adoption?"

Answer: It’s never too late to make an adoption plan for your child. Lifetime has helped many women who tried parenting before turning to adoption. You can oversee the entire adoption planning process, and that includes deciding when you're ready to begin. No matter if your child is weeks, months or years old, adoption is always a decision that you can make. If you choose adoption later on, you have the same choices and rights as a pregnant woman making an adoption plan. This includes:

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Topics: Adoption for my child, older child adoption, adopt out my child, is it too late to choose adoption?, is it too late to do adoption?

An Interview With A Birth Mother: Why I Chose Adoption

Posted by Lifetime Adoption on July 13, 2018

Today, we're sharing one woman's story of choosing adoption for her child. We were able to chat with a birth mother, Ashley, about her experience with open adoption. She gives an honest, intelligent and thought-provoking account of what it was like for her to choose adoption for her son.

Ashley expresses the role this choice has played in the lives of everyone involved. And, she optimistically looks toward the future of the unique relationship built by open adoption.

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Topics: birth mother stories, what is open adoption like?

"What if People Ask Me If I Have Kids?"

Posted by Lifetime Adoption on July 6, 2018

Many birth mothers have found it difficult to talk about their birth child with people they don’t know. Do you feel that the person asking if you have kids is someone you’d like to share your personal feelings with?

If you are OK with going into detail about your adoption plan, that's great. If not and you find it easier just to say “No,” it doesn't mean you’re denying you have a child. Don't feel guilty about answering "no."

If you haven't found a response you’re comfortable with, here are a few suggestions. One of these might work for you when you're asked: "Do you have any children?”

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Topics: Adoption story, adoption for my baby, post-adoption, what is open adoption like?, contact with my baby

Dallas Area Couple Eager to Adopt

Posted by Lifetime Adoption on June 29, 2018

Ben and Lara live in the Dallas area and have created this cute video to introduce themselves and share about their dreams of adopting a baby!

They're an artistic, faith-oriented family who are looking forward to expanding their household through adoption. Ben and Lara have a three-year-old son, and they're super excited for him to become a big brother to a new brother or sister.

They've been married for eight years, and love adventures. As Christians, Ben and Lara are very active in their church and are close to their church family. They love outdoor activities such as hiking, fishing, and going to baseball games. Ben and Lara are open to adopting a child of any race and are open to letters, visits, and pictures if you are comfortable. 

Keep reading to learn more about Dallas area couple Ben and Lara,
and to watch their sweet video!

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Topics: Adoptive couple video, Adoptive couple's video, adoption video,, adoptive family video, Texas adoptive couple, adoptive couple from Texas

Adoption Doesn’t Mean That You’re “Giving Up”

Posted by Lifetime Adoption on June 22, 2018

In the media, birth mothers are often portrayed as women who decide to "give up" their babies for adoption. From talk shows, to movies, and even to casual chats with friends, the term "give up" is often mentioned in connection with adoption. Today, we're going to explain why adoption doesn't mean that you're giving up.

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Topics: giving a baby up for adoption, Giving Baby up for Adoption, adopt out my baby, adoption for my baby, is adoption right for me, I could never give my baby away for adoption!, adopting out my baby, giving my baby up for adoption

What Should I Ask Adoptive Families About Their Faith?

Posted by Lifetime Adoption on June 15, 2018

Lifetime has many adoptive couples to choose from, of various denominations. So, if it’s important to you that your child’s adoptive family be a specific denomination such as Baptist, Catholic, or Methodist, make sure to let your Adoption Coordinator know.

Once you’re interested in one adoptive couple, you'll have the opportunity to get to know them better over the phone. Know that it's normal to be nervous about this phone call. If you'd like, your Adoption Coordinator can join in on the call and help move the convo along.

When you talk to the adoptive couple you're interested in, you'll probably want to learn more about their religious background. Here are 8 possible questions about faith that you might ask them:

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Topics: christian couple, adoptive family for my baby, Christian family for my baby, adoptive family's faith, adoptive family of faith, faith in adoption

“What if People Say I’m Selfish for Adopting Out My Baby?”

Posted by Lifetime Adoption on June 8, 2018

"I'm only ten weeks pregnant, and I've just started to look at adoptive parent websites. Since I'm still in college, and my baby's father wants nothing to do with all this, I know deep down that adoption is the best decision I could make.

But I'm worried about what people might think. Are people right to say that adopting out my baby is selfish of me? How should I respond when they say stuff like that?"

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Topics: adoption tip, adopting out my baby