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Will I Love My Adopted Child As Strongly as a Biological Child?

Posted by Lifetime Adoption on November 24, 2017

Adoptive mother loving and bonding with her babySometimes hopeful parents wonder if raising a child through adoption would be "the same" as raising a child they gave birth to. Every adoptive parent will tell you, "There's no difference. That child is your baby!" The adoption truth is this: adoption builds families. 

Maybe you've wondered whether or not you'd love an adopted child as much as you would a biological one. You might be struggling with whether or not the love you’ll feel for your adopted child will be as strong as the love you have for your biological children. Asking yourself this question is natural, and totally necessary, even if it seems shameful.  We're going to delve into this issue today, to reveal the adoption truth. And that's that you'll truly love your adopted child and develop a genuine connection with them.

We always hear of the instant, close bond between mother and baby, but the truth is, sometimes these ties don't come right away in some biological families. Some moms and dads have a difficult time bonding with their baby. In cases of post-partum depression or anxiety, bonding with a new baby can be challenging. The bottom line is, an immediate level of love and devotion doesn't always happen. In many families, parents grow to love their children and develop bonds a little later. Adoption can work in the same way. The love may not happen right away for some families, while others feel an immediate connection.

The foundation of a close, loving relation isn't always carrying your child in the womb or sharing genes with them. In reality, the love that develops between a parent and child comes from the care and nurturing the parent provides their child. If you keep this in mind, then it totally makes sense that the love you feel for your biological children will be the same for an adopted child.

Since you'll be providing primary care to your child, it won't matter that they didn't biologically come from you. You'll be the one need when they're sick or hurt. You'll be the one to answer their many curious questions. They'll call you their parent, and you'll call them your child. The relationships parents develop with their biological children can be created with your adopted child who, truthfully, is simply your child.

Hear one adoptive mom, Kimberly, share her thoughts on this topic in the short video below:

Adoption Truth - Adoption Builds Families from Lifetime Adoption on Vimeo.

Remember, infertility doesn't have to be the end of a dream. It could mean the beginning of the next step towards your future child!

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Topics: Open Adoption, Domestic Adoption, Infertility, adoption truth, infertility to adoption,, adoptive parenting