Adoptive Families Blog

Behind the Scenes of Adam & Kristi’s Decision to Adopt

Posted by Lifetime Adoption on November 14, 2018

"Are we meant to adopt?"

Lifetime adoptive couple Adam and Kristi share part one of their adoption story

 

"This is never going to happen." Many people who walk through infertility often identify with the hopelessness that can come of trying and trying to build a family, without success.

Moving from infertility to a decision to become a family through adoption is a deep and thoughtful process. There are layers of grief and disappointment mixed together with the hope of looking forward to the good that will come from their determination not to give up.

We often are asked: "How do you know when to move from fertility treatments to adoption?"

For every adoptive parent, the answer to that honest question will vary. However, one recurring thread in nearly every Lifetime Adoption testimony is the sense that adoption is where the story was leading all along.

As you’ll see in Adam and Kristi’s story, a sense of peace, relief, and renewed hope came from answering a call to adoption.

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Topics: infertility to adoption,, Adoption journey, Adoption story, fertility treatments to adoption, fertility treatments, Infertility, Waiting to Adopt

What’s Waiting to Adopt Like for an Adoptive Dad-to-Be?

Posted by Lifetime Adoption on July 5, 2018

What’s it like for men as they wait to become fathers through open adoption? As they support their wives and look forward to their future family, adoptive dads-to-be have their own unique ways of waiting-to-adopt. In this short live video, one of Lifetime’s hopeful adoptive dads, Joe, gives us a view from a man’s perspective.

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Topics: Father's Day, adoptive fathers, adoptive dad-to-be, adoptive dads, adoption wait, Waiting to Adopt

How Did They Adopt So Quickly?

Posted by Lifetime Adoption on May 14, 2018

"My husband and I have been waiting to be chosen by a birth mother for almost two years now. Meanwhile, I keep seeing couples matching and adopting on the Lifetime website. I feel like it's not fair. How did they adopt so quickly? Why them and not us?!"

Right away, Lifetime's adoption professionals can recognize couples who will adopt sooner rather than later. These couples have resolved any infertility issues, and are now focusing on their adoption.

Their focus on adoption is so sharp that they're not trying to remodel their home or shop for a new car at the same time. These couples are putting all of their efforts and resources into their adoption. They're resourceful, organized, and proactive.

Keep reading to discover how you can speed up your adoption match!

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Topics: adoption wait, adoption readiness, ready to adopt, Waiting to Adopt, domestic infant adoption, adoption match

Mother's Day Takes on the Meaning You Give It

Posted by Mardie Caldwell on May 11, 2018

My first Mother's Day was pretty exciting! There had been a lot of pain before that: I’d lost seven pregnancies, really wanted to become a mother, and had been waiting to be chosen by a birth mother. There were times we were thinking we were going to be parents and we weren't, and I always had some feelings around Mother's Day. I had a miscarriage a week before Mother's Day, which was really hard. And then I had another one ON Mother's Day. We were getting ready to go to church, and I knew I was losing the baby!

A lot of the time on Mother's Day, I just wanted to curl up in bed and forget the whole day because it can be really painful. I'm sure that some of the other adoptive moms out there might feel like that too. You’re around people (especially at church) who are celebrating moms. In the past, they’d have all the mothers at my church stand up, and that was really painful.

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Topics: how to handle the adoption wait, Mother's Day, National Birth Mother's Day, Birth Mother's Day, adoption wait, Waiting to Adopt, Holidays

How to Know When You Need Counseling During Your Adoption Wait

Posted by Lifetime Adoption on April 16, 2018

During your adoption wait, you might find that you need extra help to work through some of the emotions that arise. Seeking help from a licensed adoption counselor can be an invaluable tool in learning ways of coping, reacting, or addressing some of the challenges and feelings.

Please know that there's no "wrong" reason for seeking adoption counseling services when you're waiting to adopt. After all, the wait can be stressful and filled with anxious highs and disappointing lows. 

Here are a few examples of scenarios for which previous adoptive families have sought adoption counseling services:

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Topics: how to handle the adoption wait, adoption wait, Waiting to Adopt, marriage counseling, counseling, Adoption journey

6 Things to Pay Attention to When You’re Waiting to Adopt

Posted by Lifetime Adoption on February 5, 2018

You've checked everything off your adoption checklist, and now you're in the adoption wait. Waiting for a birth mother to choose you for an adoption match can be an incredibly trying time. The ups, downs, and unknowns of waiting for adoption can become all-consuming. During this time, some waiting adoptive parents start unknowingly neglecting that which matters most to them.

Today, Lifetime is sharing 6 things that parents waiting for adoption should avoid neglecting:

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Topics: Waiting to Adopt, how to handle the adoption wait, adoption wait, Domestic Adoption

Before You Adopt: Explore Your City

Posted by Lifetime Adoption on January 8, 2018

For many couples, waiting to be chosen as adoptive parents can feel agonizing. There’s a certain amount of waiting to be expected in the infant adoption process. That's why at Lifetime, we encourage you to make the most while you're waiting for adoption in our blog series "Before You Adopt."

In this blog series for hopeful adoptive parents, we encourage you to do productive activities such as taking a childcare class, building your adoption budget, and getting practice with parenting before adoption. Today, we’re sharing a fun activity you can do while you wait to be chosen by a birth mother: explore your city.

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Topics: before you adopt, adoption readiness, Adoption preparation, Waiting to Adopt, how to handle the adoption wait, adoption wait

In the Adoption Wait? Get Our Holiday Survival Tips

Posted by Lifetime Adoption on December 4, 2017

Family gatherings and Christmas traditions make this a fun, exciting time of year for most people. But for couples waiting for adoption, the holiday season might become a time of added pressure and disappointment. Loved ones mean well but ask questions or make remarks that feel hurtful or seem insensitive.

A common question from hopeful parents waiting for a child is: "How do we get through the holidays?" Keep reading to get Lifetime’s advice for adoptive parents waiting to adopt this holiday season!

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Topics: Christmas, Holidays, Waiting to Adopt, how to handle the adoption wait, adoption wait

5 Halloween Traditions You Can Share With Your Adopted Child

Posted by Lifetime Adoption on October 25, 2017

Many of us have such great memories of the Halloween traditions we took part in when we were children. While you’re in your adoption wait, think about the Halloween traditions you’d like to establish with your future child.

If you’ve created a Facebook page to spread the word about your adoption hopes, posting photos and videos of you enjoying Halloween traditions is a great way to show birth mothers what family life would be like for her child in your family. Since it can sometimes be challenging to figure out your own unique family traditions, today we’re offering you five ideas for inspiration!

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Topics: Waiting to Adopt, adoption wait, Adoption journey, Adoption process

Before You Adopt: Create a Keepsake

Posted by Lifetime Adoption on October 9, 2017

Keeping busy during your adoption wait is a great way to persevere.  Fortunately, there’s a lot that you can be doing as you wait for a birth mother to match with you!  Right now, you have more time to get things done than you will when you become parents. 

So in today’s entry of Lifetime’s blog series "Before you Adopt," we're sharing about another project to do during your adoption wait - create a keepsake for your future child.

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Topics: before you adopt, adoption readiness, Adoption preparation, Waiting to Adopt, adoption wait, how to handle the adoption wait, Adoption journey