Adoptive Families Blog

A Healthy Open Adoption Needs These 6 Things

Posted by Lifetime Adoption on September 19, 2018

Decades ago, almost every adoption was closed. Back then, people thought that closed adoption was best for the child. Today's adoptions look much different. An estimated 95% of domestic adoptions now have some level of openness between adoptive parents and birth parents. 

Even though there are varying kinds and levels of openness in open adoptions, there are healthy traits that many have in common. Here are 6 traits that adoptive families should strive for in open adoptions:

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Topics: Open Adoption, adoption tip, relationship with birth mother, what is open adoption like?

What If She Changes Her Mind About Adoption?

Posted by Lifetime Adoption on May 30, 2018

Many adoptive parents who are matched with a birth mother get anxiety about whether their adoption might fail. They wonder, "what if she changes her mind about adoption?"  When a birth mother changes her mind before signing legal paperwork, it's known in the adoption world as a "fall-through."

Lifetime encourages you to remember that this risk in adoption is so worth it. After all, taking the chance is how you’ll be led to your child. At Lifetime, our goal is to see you adopt successfully, not just get matched. In most cases, if adoptive parents face a fall-through we will continue to help them to find a successful match. While failed adoptions are less common at Lifetime, because of the way our program supports each side of the adoption match, it’s good to understand why a birth mother might change her mind, and what happens if she does.

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Topics: birth mother, relationship with birth mother, adoption match, what if a birth mother changes her mind?, fall-through

Is There Such a Thing as a "Typical Birth Mother"?

Posted by Lifetime Adoption on February 12, 2018

Many hopeful adoptive parents wonder what birth mothers are like. They worry about speaking with a birth mother on the phone because they don't know what to expect. How old are most birth mothers? Why are they choosing adoption? Are they married or single? What's their background like? Is there such a thing as a "typical birth mother?" Join Lifetime as we share the answers to these commonly-asked questions, and more! 

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Topics: Open Adoption, Adoption Myths, Birth Mothers, relationship with birth mother, talking to birth mothers, phone call with birth mother

6 Ways to Improve Your Connection with a Birth Mother

Posted by Lifetime Adoption on January 29, 2018

Even after completing your home study, creating a wonderful profile, and rehearsing what you'll say in that first phone call with a birth mother, you might still be overlooking an important part of the child adoption process that leads to successful adoptions. And that's to genuinely connect with a birth mother.

Join Lifetime as we share 6 ways to extend yourself to a birth mother and improve your connection with her!

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Topics: Open Adoption, Adoption Tips, relationship with birth mother, modern adoption

Discover What You Should Never Do at the Hospital

Posted by Lifetime Adoption on January 26, 2018

In open adoptions, many adoptive families are fortunate enough to be a part of the birth of their baby. It's a blessing to have the birth family invite you to the hospital. Each adoption hospital experience is going to play out differently, and today we want to share some general adoption etiquette guidelines with you. 

During the hospital experience, there’s a difference between meaning well and acting entitled. So today, Lifetime is here to help your adoption etiquette with four things that adoptive couples should never do at the hospital.

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Topics: Open Adoption, relationship with birth mother, adoption experience in the hospital

Beautiful Video from a Birth Mom to Her Baby Has Gone Viral!

Posted by Lifetime Adoption on January 19, 2018

In an emotional video that's since gone viral, birth mother Hannah explains to her newly-born son that she'll always love him. 

Both People Magazine and The Today Show, have picked up this story of a loving birth mother with a special message for her baby.  "I thought I would make this video for you instead of writing a letter because it's real and it’s in the moment," Hannah says in her emotional video.

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Topics: Open Adoption, adoption video,, birth mother videos, relationship with birth mother, modern adoption

What You Need to Know About Talking to a Birth Mother

Posted by Lifetime Adoption on December 18, 2017

It’s both thrilling and nerve-wracking to get ready for your first phone call with a birth mother! Many adoptive couples have shared with us that they were very nervous when they talked to their birth mother for the first time. 

Today, Lifetime is sharing 7 pieces of advice when meeting a birth mother on the phone for the first time!

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Topics: Talking to Birthmothers, Birth Mothers, birth mom, relationship with birth mother, adoption match

What Are the Benefits of Domestic Adoption?

Posted by Lifetime Adoption on October 16, 2017

As you begin to look into adoption, one of the most significant choices you'll make is whether to adopt within the U.S. or internationally. A common misunderstanding is that there are no babies available for adoption in the U.S. The truth is, there are thousands of infants placed for adoption within our country every year. With domestic adoption today, you can have a clear adoption process and be able to connect with birth parents. Keep reading to find out more about the benefits of domestic adoption!

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Topics: Open Adoption, Domestic Adoption, International adoption, relationship with birth mother, domestic infant adoption

What If Our Birth Mom Wants a Closed Adoption?

Posted by Lifetime Adoption on August 30, 2017

Nowadays, open adoption is becoming the norm, and most birth mothers desire some amount of contact after placement. But what happens if your birth mom wants to have a closed adoption? Is that possible with modern adoption?

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Topics: Open Adoption, closed adoption, relationship with birth mother

"What's a Good Gift for Our Child's Birth Mom?"

Posted by Lifetime Adoption on May 26, 2017

Here's a question asked of Lifetime's adoption experts during a recent Facebook Live video: "What is a good gift for our child’s birth mother to show that we care? Could I make her something?" What a touching and thoughtful open adoption question! We'd like to share our answer with you here today.

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Topics: Open Adoption, Adoption Gifts, adoption gift, gift for your birth mother, relationship with birth mother, gift for our child's birth mother