Adoptive Families Blog

Adopting After Infertility: How Do I Know It's Right for Me?

Posted by Mardie Caldwell on May 4, 2018

Sometimes, people rush into adoption when they discover they are infertile without taking the time to grieve the loss of the biological child they did not have. They risk sabotaging an adoption or, worse, treating an adopted child as second best to the son or daughter they might have had.

Before you can adopt with success, you must come to terms with your infertility. For some couples, this may take years. Move at your own pace, but realize that the longer you wait, the more you delay the precious time you could have with your child.

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Topics: Infertility, infertility to adoption,, fertility treatments, failed fertility treatments

Will I Love My Adopted Child As Strongly as a Biological Child?

Posted by Lifetime Adoption on November 24, 2017

Sometimes hopeful parents wonder if raising a child through adoption would be "the same" as raising a child they gave birth to. Every adoptive parent will tell you, "There's no difference. That child is your baby!" The adoption truth is this: adoption builds families. 

Maybe you've wondered whether or not you'd love an adopted child as much as you would a biological one. You might be struggling with whether or not the love you’ll feel for your adopted child will be as strong as the love you have for your biological children. Asking yourself this question is natural, and totally necessary, even if it seems shameful.  We're going to delve into this issue today, to reveal the adoption truth. And that's that you'll truly love your adopted child and develop a genuine connection with them.

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Topics: Open Adoption, Domestic Adoption, Infertility, adoption truth, infertility to adoption,, adoptive parenting

Recognizing Pregnancy and Infant Loss Awareness Month

Posted by Lifetime Adoption on October 18, 2017

Each year, October is recognized as National Pregnancy and Infant Loss Awareness Month. Too many couples grieve the loss of a baby alone, never coming to terms with their loss. Lifetime observes this month with respect and sensitivity.

Keep reading to learn more about the history of National Pregnancy and Infant Loss Awareness month, and to discover how you'll know if you're ready to turn to adoption.

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Topics: Infertility, infertility to adoption,, fertility treatments, failed fertility treatments, infant loss, miscarriage

Signs You’re Ready to Turn to Adoption (Part 2)

Posted by Mardie Caldwell on December 12, 2016

Last Monday, I shared with you a few signs you’re ready to turn to adoption. Today’s post is part two in my two-part series on deciding when the time has come to turn from fertility treatments to adoption.

Here are two more signs that it might be time to think about considering adoption:

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Topics: Infertility, infertility to adoption,, fertility treatments, failed fertility treatments

Signs You’re Ready to Turn to Adoption (Part 1)

Posted by Mardie Caldwell on December 5, 2016

Many couples undergoing fertility treatments wonder how they’ll know it's the right time to stop trying for a biological child and start the adoption process. It’s not a simple answer, and for every parent it is different.  In your marriage, you may find one spouse arrives at this place before the other, which is completely normal.  

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Topics: Infertility, infertility to adoption,, fertility treatments, failed fertility treatments

Turning the Bitter Into Blessings

Posted by Lifetime Adoption on November 14, 2016

Adoption IS NOT a "cure" for the hurt and loss that comes with infertility or miscarriage. As one woman puts it, “I wish those watching us adopt could understand how much hurt and pain we have been through (with infertility and miscarriages), and that even though we are on the path to adoption, those aches aren’t automatically ‘cured.’”

So true. As this adoptive mom-in-waiting describes, an adoption is never intended to be a “fix all” for the loss that happened through infertility.

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Topics: Infertility, infertility to adoption,, fertility treatments, failed fertility treatments

“Haven’t You Figured Out How to DO IT yet?” - My Infertility Story

Posted by Mardie Caldwell on November 3, 2016

As the eldest of five children, I grew up with three brothers and one sister. Starting when I was young, I loved to help my mom out in caring for them. Watching children felt natural to me, and I knew that when I grew up, I wanted to be a mom. I enjoyed collecting baby clothes and blankets, and kept them stored away for the child I would have one day.

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Topics: Infant adoption, Mardie Caldwell, Infertility, infertility to adoption,, adoption expert, fertility treatments, adoption expert Mardie Caldwell, failed fertility treatments

This Father’s Day, Remember the Fathers-to-Be

Posted by Lifetime Adoption on June 16, 2016

As with all family planning, it's common that the hopeful mom-to-be stands as the focus. Loved ones may be sensitive to women waiting for a child. Doctors assisting couples through pregnancy or infertility may focus on the mother-to-be. In adoption, there may be a tendency to direct materials and questions to the prospective adoptive mom. Even a birth mother may prefer to engage more with the adoptive mom, than with the adoptive father. When hoping, planning, and waiting for a child, it seems it's a woman's world.

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Topics: Infertility, Waiting to Adopt, Adopting a Baby, adoptive dads, Father's Day, adoptive fathers

Turning to Adoption

Posted by Mardie Caldwell on April 28, 2016

Knowing When to Move on from Fertility Treatments

Every year, National Infertility Awareness Week (NIAW) is recognized in April. This year, the week is April 24-30. NIAW is a movement that was founded in 1989. The objective of NIAW is to increase awareness about infertility, and encourage the people to learn more about reproductive health.

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Topics: Mardie Caldwell, Infertility, infertility to adoption,

Dealing With Infertility Grief Before Adopting

Posted by Lifetime Adoption on January 12, 2016

Many times, adoptive parents have gone through multiple miscarriages before turning to adoption. Coming to terms with infertility is something that's very important for you to do before you bring your baby home through adoption.

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Topics: Infertility, infertility to adoption,