Adoptive Families Blog

What If She Changes Her Mind About Adoption?

Posted by Lifetime Adoption on May 30, 2018

Many adoptive parents who are matched with a birth mother get anxiety about whether their adoption might fail. They wonder, "what if she changes her mind about adoption?"  When a birth mother changes her mind before signing legal paperwork, it's known in the adoption world as a "fall-through."

Lifetime encourages you to remember that this risk in adoption is so worth it. After all, taking the chance is how you’ll be led to your child. At Lifetime, our goal is to see you adopt successfully, not just get matched. In most cases, if adoptive parents face a fall-through we will continue to help them to find a successful match. While failed adoptions are less common at Lifetime, because of the way our program supports each side of the adoption match, it’s good to understand why a birth mother might change her mind, and what happens if she does.

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Topics: adoption match, what if a birth mother changes her mind?, birth mother, relationship with birth mother, fall-through

How Did They Adopt So Quickly?

Posted by Lifetime Adoption on May 14, 2018

"My husband and I have been waiting to be chosen by a birth mother for almost two years now. Meanwhile, I keep seeing couples matching and adopting on the Lifetime website. I feel like it's not fair. How did they adopt so quickly? Why them and not us?!"

Right away, Lifetime's adoption professionals can recognize couples who will adopt sooner rather than later. These couples have resolved any infertility issues, and are now focusing on their adoption.

Their focus on adoption is so sharp that they're not trying to remodel their home or shop for a new car at the same time. These couples are putting all of their efforts and resources into their adoption. They're resourceful, organized, and proactive.

Keep reading to discover how you can speed up your adoption match!

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Topics: adoption wait, adoption readiness, ready to adopt, Waiting to Adopt, domestic infant adoption, adoption match

When Making Your Adoption Profile, Avoid These 4 Things

Posted by Lifetime Adoption on April 18, 2018

If you're reading this, you already know that your adoption profile is an essential part of how you present yourselves to birth mothers. It's the first impression she gets of you, your lives, and what you have to offer her child. Last week, we shared how to harness the power of your adoption profile

Today, Lifetime shares adoption profile tips about what to avoid putting in your profile. Keep reading to learn the top 4 profile don'ts!

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Topics: adoption profile tips, adoption profiles, Adoption profile, birth mothers seeking families, adoption match

How to Harness the Power of Your Adoption Profile

Posted by Lifetime Adoption on April 9, 2018

So you’re ready to put yourself out there to be found by a mother seeking adoptive parents for her baby! How will women thinking about adoption find you?

With adoption in the US, the adoption profile is one of the most powerful tools in any hopeful adoptive parent’s process to adopt. A profile may look different agency to agency, depending on how that adoption professional meets the needs of the potential birth mothers they assist. Yet every profile includes photos and text that help introduce the hopeful adoptive parents to the mother considering adoption.

Your adoption profile will be your first impression to the woman who could be your child’s birth mother!

Before you panic about having a magazine-perfect home or trying to lose last year’s 15-pound weight gain (thanks fertility meds!), know that most potential birth mothers only see the best in you. She’s not reading profiles thinking any of the critical thoughts you may already have begun to obsess over in your own mind. These women are looking to get to know YOU, not a future, better, perfect, totally-have-it-together you. She wants to know who you are, and what her child’s life will be like in your family.

Here are 5 adoption profile tips for overcoming jitters so that you can put yourself out there and be discovered for the right adoption match:

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Topics: adoption profiles, adoption match, birth mothers seeking families, Adoption profile, adoption profile tips

What You Need to Know About Talking to a Birth Mother

Posted by Lifetime Adoption on December 18, 2017

It’s both thrilling and nerve-wracking to get ready for your first phone call with a birth mother! Many adoptive couples have shared with us that they were very nervous when they talked to their birth mother for the first time. 

Today, Lifetime is sharing 7 pieces of advice when meeting a birth mother on the phone for the first time!

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Topics: Talking to Birthmothers, relationship with birth mother, adoption match, Birth Mothers, birth mom

A Peek Behind the Scenes From Our Director of Adoption Services

Posted by Lifetime Adoption on October 23, 2017

Lifetime recently celebrated Director of Adoption Services Diane Schafer's 18th year with us! We'd like to take this chance to recognize Diane for her service in building families through adoption. She's helped so many adoptive couples and birth mothers connect through open adoption.

Today, we're sharing an insider's look about how birth mothers pick an adoptive family for their baby! Diane made an appearance in a Facebook Live video for Lifetime, and answered some of the most frequently-asked questions that we get asked about this topic:

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Topics: Birth Mothers, adoption match, birth mothers seeking families, photo of birth mother, what if a birth mother changes her mind?, adoption video,, talking to birth mothers

The Inside Scoop on What Birth Mothers Like to Know

Posted by Lifetime Adoption on July 10, 2017

Here's a question that Lifetime's Adoption Experts received during a recent Facebook Live video: "What do birth mothers like to know about adoptive families? And, how can we support them better?"

Keep reading to see Lifetime's answer!

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Topics: Birth Mothers, adoption match, first call with a birth mother

Check Out a Powerful, True-Life Open Adoption Story

Posted by Lifetime Adoption on May 22, 2017

Are you struggling with your adoption wait to be chosen by a birth mother? What can help give you perspective is hearing from other couples who've been where you are right now. In this video, adoptive couple Kevin and Alyssa share their true-life open adoption story, along with their daughter's birth mother, Bailey.

Read on to out why a birth mother's right to choose her baby's parents is so crucial in adoption today!

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Topics: Waiting to Adopt, how to handle the adoption wait, adoption match, Open Adoption, what is open adoption like?

Behind the Scenes at Lifetime [VIDEO]

Posted by Lifetime Adoption on March 10, 2017

Here's a little sneak peek into what goes on behind the scenes at Lifetime Adoption's office! In this short video, Birthmother Coordinator Kimberly shares a little update on an adoption match she's currently working on:

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Topics: adoption match, adopt a baby, adopt a child, I want to adopt a baby, Lifetime Adoption, Infant adoption

How to Enhance Your First Call With a Birth Mother

Posted by Lifetime Adoption on March 6, 2017

You’ve got a birth mother who wants to speak with you. This is a really exciting time! So how do you prepare for this important phone call? Today, Lifetime Adoption shares tips on how you can enhance this first call with a birth mother.

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Topics: phone call with birth mother, Talking to Birthmothers, talking to birth mothers, adoption match, first call with a birth mother