Today, we're pleased to share the third part in Lifetime Adoption's new blog series, How to Be Successful in Domestic Infant Adoption. With this series, our mission is to assist you in learning how you can successfully adopt a baby with a shorter adoption wait!
If you've just started exploring infant adoption, or the adoption process, you might be curious what it entails. Or, maybe you're in the adoption wait and would like to speed things up. In either case, this blog series is for you!
Here are the top 8 things that successful adoptive parents have in common:
- Their home study is current
- Profile has been completed
- Adoption preferences are open
- Don't turn down an adoption opportunity which is inside their preferences
- Have created an adoption video
- Prioritize their adoption
- Open to adopting a baby or child of either gender
- Attend Lifetime's webinars
If you missed it, last week we wrote about your adoption profile and why it's so vital. Today, we're sharing about item #3, keeping your preferences open enough to allow for an adoption.
Some adoptive families are tempted to get very particular with their preferences, and mention preferences outside of what Lifetime specifies. When a hopeful adoptive couple fills out Lifetime's free online application, we ask them their preferences for the age and race of child they'd be open to adopting. One example of a picky preference outside of what Lifetime lists is a couple who told us "we don't want a birth mom who looks like a 'Precious-type.'" While this sounds extreme, it's a real example of a finicky desire that would hinder your ability to adopt.
A major factor to consider with your adoption preferences is the ability to select the gender of your baby. Lifetime has found that when a birth mother learns that an adoptive couple is only hoping to adopt a girl (or a boy) they're a little appalled. After all, with a pregnancy, you're not able to pick your baby's gender.
Also, choosing to be "boy only" or "girl only" drastically reduces the amount of adoption opportunities you could be presented to. Many birth mothers don't know what gender their baby will be (or choose not to find out). Out of the birth mothers we're working with, suppose half know what gender they're having and half don't. Then, out of the remaining half that know, let's say half of those are having boys and half are having girls. We are about down to 25% of the opportunities now. We have to also consider other preferences, and whether or not these 25% would fit the preferences that you have as a family. Effectively, being gender specific in your preferences could mean that you're only presented to less than 25% of the birth mothers Lifetime is currently working with!
The bottom line is that it's so important to make sure your preferences are open enough for an adoption to be possible. If you have questions about adoption preferences and what they mean, you can call us at 1-800-923-6784.
Stay tuned for part 4 of the 8-part blog series How to Be Successful in Domestic Infant Adoption! We'll be telling you about why it's important that you don't decline an adoption opportunity which falls within your preferences.