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How to Find the Right Adoption Support Group for You

Posted by Lifetime Adoption on February 7, 2018

get tips on finding the right adoption support group for you!If you could use extra emotional support while you wait for your baby, you might be wondering if an adoption support group is right for you. Adoption support groups can provide you with a healthy, supportive community during your adoption journey.

There are so many different support groups out there, and you might be wondering which one to join. Follow Lifetime as we share practical tips on what to look for in a support group so that you can find the right group for you!

First and foremost, you'll need an adoption support group that fuels hope and promotes a healthy, supportive environment amongst its members. The last thing that you need when you're struggling with your adoption wait is a toxic, viral environment that is driven by fear or anger. Avoid an adoption support group that seems to fuel dread, fear, resentment, and a "misery-loves-company" mindset!

Confidentiality is also a major factor; does the support group respect confidentiality in adoption? By confidentiality, we mean that the members don't gossip outside of the group, have respect birth mother privacy, and avoid oversharing details that should be kept between the individuals involved in one child’s adoption. 

An adoption support group should aim to share correct and modern info about adoption. Avoid groups that seem to feed upon adoption stereotypes, or let outdated stories, or unusual circumstances, dictate the norm for the group when it comes to supporting each other’s stories/experiences.

With that said, the group's moderator(s) shouldn't claim to be adoption experts. Experience is one thing, but hearsay and taking professional advice from peers won't be helpful to your specific adoption process.

You'll want to seek out an adoption support group whose members celebrate each other’s victories. As "I Am Fruitful" puts it, one family’s victory in welcoming their baby home is not taking away from YOUR future blessing. Also, you need an adoption support group that's understanding, because not every family is called to the same type of adoption as another. The goal of the support group should be to encourage others to learn, not to judge or criticize another family’s adoption goals.

If you could use extra support during your adoption journey, make sure to check out these three positive and encouraging bloggers/pages:

I Am Fruitful

Moms in the Making

Grace While We Wait

Please keep in mind that these groups also encourage people who are still trying to conceive.

You might find adoption support groups on Facebook or other social media sites. Our advice with Facebook groups is that if their posts leave you annoyed, feeling ignored, criticized, or anxious about your adoption, just leave the group. Some churches are starting to offer adoption support groups/ministries for hopeful parents as well, so make sure to check at your church.

In addition, many waiting adoptive families have found Lifetime's adoption webinars to be a wonderful source of encouragement and support. Hopeful adoptive parents will be motivated by hearing stories from successful adoptive couples about their journey through adoption. Visit AdoptionWebinar.com to watch recordings of past webinars, and get notified of future ones!

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Topics: Domestic Adoption, adoption wait, Support adoption, how to handle the adoption wait, adoption support groups, adoption support group